Morning independence is easier when the environment remembers some of the routine. A low basket for the bag and one reachable hook for the jacket remove several instructions from the conversation.
In the evening, offer two weather-appropriate outfits. The child has a real decision, while the adult keeps the boundary manageable. Lay the chosen clothes in order and leave more time than an adult would need.
Progress is not measured against another child. A calm hint or requested help can preserve participation better than taking over. The full routine pack includes neutral picture strips and ways to adjust each step.